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Loneliness has become one of the United States' greatest health crises, according to U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy. In 2023, the Department of Health and Human Services released an advisory outlining why social connection continues to decline and its far-reaching impacts on individuals and communities. This advisory is a fascinating treasure trove of insights, shedding light on how the erosion of social connection can lead to fractured communities, infighting, and intolerance. I encourage you to read the advisory in full when you have time, but here are some of the key findings from Dr. Murthy and his team:

• Increased social isolation: Between 2020 and 2023, people spent an average of 24 additional hours per month alone.

• Declining social engagement: Time spent on household companionship, friendships, non-household family interactions, and other forms of social engagement has dropped dramatically.

• Friendships at risk: The average time spent with friends has plummeted by 20 hours per month—a stark decline.

• Rise of single-family households: Single-family households have nearly doubled, from 13% in 1960 to 29% in 2022.

• Changing lifestyle choices: More people today are choosing to remain unpartnered or not have children, contributing to the loneliness epidemic.

• Fewer informal support systems: With an aging population and increasing rates of chronic health conditions, many lack the informal support systems they once relied on during times of need.

Why This Matters

Social connection is the fabric of a healthy community. It strengthens bonds, provides a safety net, and serves as a catalyst for social change. Yet, as this epidemic of loneliness deepens, more people feel disconnected from their communities.

To combat this crisis, Dr. Murthy and his team developed the Recipes for Connection booklet—a timely and practical resource. Released during a period of political and social uncertainty, the booklet offers actionable tips and guidance for building real-life connections, from small gestures to larger community-building efforts. It’s a rich resource, perfect for the upcoming holiday season when opportunities to foster connection abound.

This resource feels particularly urgent right now. Reflecting on last week’s election results, I know many felt disheartened, upset, or even frightened. The demographic divide among voters reminded me just how deeply disconnected many communities are. Without basic social cohesion, how can we hope to bridge divides, heal discontent, or address the generational wounds that continue to hold us back?

I encourage you to explore the Recipes for Connection booklet and draw inspiration from its ideas. I plan to try a few of its suggestions in the coming weeks. If you do the same, I’d love to hear how it goes!

Always,

Jaya

Reflect

1. How does loneliness manifest in your own life or community?

2. What do you think contributes most to loneliness in modern society?

3. How can you be a catalyst for connection in your own community?

Act

1. Reach Out to Friends Regularly: Make a conscious effort to connect with friends—plan coffee dates, phone calls, or virtual hangouts. Consistent engagement, even if brief, can strengthen bonds and reduce feelings of isolation.

2. Practice “Micro-Connections:” Engage in small, positive interactions throughout your day—a friendly greeting to a neighbor, a quick chat with a colleague, or even a smile to a stranger. These brief connections can help alleviate loneliness and build a sense of community.

3. Reduce Solo Screen Time: Take a break from screens when possible, especially if you’re using them in isolation. Instead, prioritize in-person interactions or engaging activities that connect you to others.

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